Mélanie Hope

The Romance Edition

The Romance Edition

We all have a story, and in this edition, you get to hear the unique stories of how four couples met. We start out by telling ours. Then we bring on Sam and Darla Stratton, who found love later in life and have been married for about the same amount of time as we have. We also get to hear from DaWayne and Kellie, who just got married a few weeks ago. Finally, we sit at the feet of the masters – Lee and Ed, who have been married for 48 years.

 

Abby answers a letter from a divorced man who wonders if Valentine’s Day is too much for a first date. Read her answer here.
 

 

 

Lead-in music by Purple Planet

Be her Valentine – Dog Abby

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Be her Valentine – Dog Abby

Dog Abby:

I had a very nasty breakup and divorce a couple of years ago with a woman who I thought would be my partner for life. I have been keeping to myself ever since. A few weeks ago, I met a lovely woman at a church function. She was new to town and looking for people to connect with. Last week she indicated that she would like to have dinner with me sometime and said she was free for Valentine’s Day.

Abby, I really like this girl, and she has all but asked me out on a date for Valentine’s, but I am very nervous about doing this because the day is still emotionally charged for me based on my failed marriage. Should I give myself more time or should I call and make those dinner reservations?

Vexed in Vermont

Dog Abby paw print

Dear Vexed:

By the way you put the question, I think I know which way you are leaning. But since you seem to need that final nudge…have I got a story for you!

My mom met the man who is now my dad 8 years ago in January. Up until that point, Mom had had a long series of very bad Valentine’s Days. She had been broken up with, had friends and relatives die, and even had her cat set its tail on fire while her date was waiting for her! On top of all that, she had gotten a divorce from my first daddy, who left her on Valentine’s Day, so she did not really consider it a real holiday anymore. After first daddy, mom would just hang out with me on Valentine’s Day and not pay any attention to anything else outside of a wine bottle.

Even though dad had only known mom for a few weeks, dad decided to try and change her mind about Valentine’s Day. He even told her (and me) that he wanted her to have the Best Valentine’s Day Ever! He made dinner reservations at one of the best restaurants in town. Auntie Felicity did mom’s hair and makeup, and mom put on a beautiful dress and drove out to the restaurant. She says that when dad saw her walk in the door, he dropped his jaw AND his fork! Dad had bought her flowers, and surprised her with a heart-shaped diamond necklace which she still wears almost every day after all of these years.

It was the true beginning of their relationship, and it happened because they took a chance on each other. Maybe you will find something special with this lady, maybe not. But as my mom likes to say, “What’s the worst that could happen?” You will not have to be alone on Valentine’s Day, and you will have a fun time with a lady you like, even if it does not work out. The best that could happen? You will begin a new part of your life that will make you both very happy.

Pick up your phone and make that reservation. Good luck — we are all rooting for you.

Love,

Abby

Build the damn wall. It’ll be cheaper.

Build the damn wall. It’ll be cheaper.

That whiney, incessant wind-tunnel sound you are still hearing after a full year is actually escaped expletives from the Democratic echo chamber as they continue to try to convince us Plebs that $4.1 billion is too much for border security. Keep in mind, these are the same folks that rallied around Obama when he spent $2 million EACH to train “moderate” Syrian rebels to fight against ISIS. That program was so successful that it was shut down after training 145 of ‘em, and only 95 who actually went back to Syria. …and ISIS was doing still just fine when Bummer left office, thank you. (Where did the rest of the trainees go, and how much is that costing us?) But I digress…

God forbid a businessman with experience in construction should be in charge of a construction project — not when soft, government teat-sucking hypocrites know so much more than the rest of us idjuts.

Of course, this (and RUSSIA RUSSIA RUSSIA) is the focus while the Dems sit for the flag, boo jobs for their constituents, harass and rape each other endlessly, and spit on murder victims because they are too white to count toward their agenda. It’s all about priorities, folks.

So, in honor of their concerns, let’s take a look 10 projects that our government felt we SHOULD pay for instead. Keep in mind; this is just a tiny taste. Ha. (You’ll get the funny when you read #6)

 

(1) Troubled, my assets

TARP cost us taxpayers $700 billion — to start. The total so far is $12.8 TRILLION, and climbing. They aren’t being watched with our money, and they have not fixed the problems that caused this mess in the first place (just search for Wells Fargo on any given news day to see the fine, upstanding citizens our stolen monies are going to assist). I guess that’s why it takes my paychecks 5-7 business days to go into my account, but my power bill 5-7 minutes to come out.

 

(2) Define what “is” is

We…no, our “representative government” wastes $123 billion ANNUALLY on programs that fail to impact the populations they serve. Fail. To. Impact. What the hell are they doing? Honestly?

 

Oh, and add to that $25 billion ANNUALLY to maintain vacant federal properties. Those really, really affect no one except us taxpayers. Nice. How about we just move the immigrants into these vacant sites and lock the doors? No, that’s just mean. Ooooh, better… we could house ALL OF OUR OWN HOMELESS VETERENS. That would be a program that impacts the population we should be serving. Too logical? Sorry…not sorry.

 

(3) Instead of a wall, we could just stack dead F-35s

$406.5 billion of our tax dollars later and we still don’t have a neato fighting jet. What’s worse, if they do actually ever get built, it will cost more than $1 trillion just to maintain them. IF they ever get built.

 

(4) Because Detroit is such a fine place to raise your kids

It irks me when folks who think our country is a democracy (it’s not) whine about the issues caused by having capitalism (we don’t). Here is another fine example of the difference between capitalism and corporatism: the recorded $11.2 billion loss in the GM bailout. I guess it wasn’t too big to fail, after all.

Don’t worry, the company itself is showing profits. We just don’t get to benefit from them in any way. I mean, did YOU get a free truck or any of your money back last year?

 

(5) Parking garage — 16 years, $120 million…and counting…

Here in Las Vegas, I have seen entire casinos (and their new parking-fee monitoring systems) go up in mere weeks. But the Paul S. Sarbanes Silver Spring Transit Center in Silver Spring, M.D. is still under construction, and with no end in sight. It’s a freaking parking garage! Oh, and Pulte Home Corp. is now suing the government for $165 million, plus legal costs, for the delay.

 

(6) I’d rather eat Moon Pies

The US government is currently shelling out $1 million PER YEAR for taste-testers of what they call the “Mars Menu” — you know, for that expedition that has not happened and will not happen for at least another 20 years? The purpose of the taste-tests is to ensure that the folks on the Mars mission (that isn’t happening, remember) won’t face “food monotony.” Boy that would suck, since so many of us taxpayers spent all eight Obama years subsisting on Top Ramen while wishing we could afford healthcare to cure our severe depression and malnutrition-induced obesity. Well, nothing is too good for astronauts that have not been born yet.

 

(7) IRS still can’t figure itself out

Rather than update their software each year, the IRS is spending $83 million to transfer 140 million taxpayers’ data from a program built in the 1960s. Hey, IRS — you know we enter all of that info every year ourselves, right? Rather than pay nearly $1 each to transfer each person’s data, why don’t you just have it go to the right place the first time — for free?

Oh, and keep in mind that this is the SECOND failed attempt. The first one cost us $37 million over budget (not sure what the budget was) to not get it done that time, either.

 

(8) Special favors for the second-best cola

In another prime example of corporatism vs. capitalism, Pepsi extorted $1.3+ million from the U.S. Department of Agriculture and the Department of Commerce to build a new aquifer-direct water supply system, a new road leading to their plant, and to improve the Genesee Valley Agri-Business Parks’ wastewater capacity. You know, since they are so poor they need extra help from us, the taxpayers, to ensure their solvency.

 

(9) WoW subscriptions only cost $15/month

Aren’t you glad that $1.2 million from a National Science Foundation grant went to study seniors playing video games? Me either. What makes it oh-so-rich is that the findings were inconclusive, at best. While much controversy swirled around whether they actually played WoW, in particular, I propose that it doesn’t matter. I have never been paid to play Cookie Cats.

 

(10) Criminy – Chuck E. Cheese beat you to it, and theirs were cooler!

The Department of Defense — yep, the guys that SHOULD be building a damn wall — spent $2 million to pay musicians and researchers to develop music computers that can hook up to robots. No, really. The video is cool, but not on my dime.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sources:

 

Vacant properties – http://www.businessinsider.com/50-suggested-budget-cuts-for-the-us-government-2010-6#washington-spends-25-billion-annually-maintaining-unused-or-vacant-federal-properties-1

GM bailout – https://www.sigtarp.gov/Quarterly%20Reports/April_30_2014_Report_to_Congress.pdf

F-35 – https://www.popularmechanics.com/military/aviation/a27332/f-35-rising-cost/

IRS – http://www.thefiscaltimes.com/Articles/2013/11/26/IRS-s-One-IT-Success-Story-Failing

Mars Menu – http://www.kitchen.menu4mars.net/

Silver Spring Transit Center – https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/md-politics/legal-costs-mounting-in-silver-spring-transit-center-litigation/2016/11/23/42f290da-b01c-11e6-8616-52b15787add0_story.html?utm_term=.64559ad30f04

Video Game Study – https://www.factcheck.org/2013/02/paying-people-to-play-video-games/

Infantilization does *not* liberate us!

Infantilization does *not* liberate us!

The #MeToo movement is bunk.

Oh, yeah, I’m ready for the backlash, and I don’t care. I KNOW what backlash feels like, and I’m up for it from the likes of RapeyWood and the SJW scum who are nothing but racist, self-hating psychos projecting their vitriol on everyone else.

As an actual rape survivor, I am constantly barraged by reminders from women who were barely glanced at and yet are screaming “I’M A VICTIM” as if it is valid. It’s not. This is not a case of “blame the victim.” This is a case of STOP TRYING TO BE A VICTIM AND STOP ECLIPSING THE REAL EXPERIENCES OF THOSE WHO WERE.

Got looked at? Got catcalled? Had a bad date? You are not victims. You are wannabes. What you are doing to others is just gross.

Yes. I’m mad. You should be, too.

I am a feminist. And, I am proudly not a feminist in the warped, unequal, man-hating, shrill, pussy-hat wearing way that it means now. All men are not bad. In fact, very few are. If EVERY man you’ve ever met is a horrible human being, it’s time you start looking in the mirror, boobie. We reap what we sow. We attract what we focus on the most. Think about it.

Third-wave feminism is sadly similar to the Third Reich. They are focused on literally destroying anyone that doesn’t look right, doesn’t speak right, has a brain, and — God forbid — uses it. They may not have gas chambers (yet), but they have built enough power to make anyone who is even accused of being a Jew *cough cough* I mean, sexist, to WISH for a gas chamber.

Instead of blaming all men, how about we ask what this says about how we raise our children? Let’s face it, every damn one of these men were born of and raised by…let’s see…oh, that would be YOU! WOMEN are teaching these boys how to act. Great job, ladies.

"Male feminists" are wolves in pussy's clothingMeanwhile, these same mothers tell their little girls that they MUST be victims. They are weak and should be terrified of the big, bad world that is always against them. The odds are not in their favor, and that has nothing to do with their bad choices. The patriarchy and toxic masculinity is out to get them. They must be coddled and protected. Being “strong” simply means being shrill and demanding equal outcome for all endeavors and crying wolf at every opportunity. Then they wonder why people don’t “listen and believe.” Put two and two together, gals.

For the record, “Toxic Masculinity” is a hoax. It’s a buzzword created to make foaming-at-the-mouth hardcore blame-seekers look as if they have a valid excuse. Once you must blame, shame, and make excuses, you are no longer victimized. You are now the one CHOOSING to be a victim, and your chosen victimhood is invalid. You are like a dog that squeals as if being murdered simply because it is not getting its way.

Much like “equal opportunity,” which offers exactly the opposite, this mindset tears women down, shredding men on the way.

Ladies: stop it. You cannot succeed through victimhood.

 

Collusion Projection

I was beyond hurt when my first husband accused me of cheating. Not only had I never done it, I had never even THOUGHT about doing it. He insisted, he swore, he tore into me every chance he got. He called me horrific names. He threw things at me. He threatened me. No amount of pleading or telling him the truth would satiate him. He took everything I did — from having a job (even though I was the one who paid ALL the bills, since he never worked) to going to church — as a personal insult. He hurt me. He kicked me out.

I. Did. Nothing. Wrong.

While homeless with a broken leg and pneumonia, and after he filed a restraining order against me, I learned that he also had moved in his mistress. So, it was not me who cheated. It was him all along. He is also the one who filed for divorce while I was in the hospital. I found out in the local paper, since he could not be bothered to tell me. Yet, he told everyone I was the “vicious” one.

I’ve seen this in countless scenarios, and now that I am more familiar with the concepts of gaslighting and projecting, I understand that the more someone accuses an innocent person of doing something heinous, the more likely the accuser is actually the offender doing that very thing.

You know, kinda like vociferous homophobes who are secretly gay? Yeah, that.

So I’m just going to say it: RUSSIA RUSSIA RUSSIA!

Was there collusion? Oh, yes! And it wasn’t Trump.

Was there sexual harassment and/or rape? Oh, yes! And it wasn’t Trump.

Did some entity infiltrate the 2016 presidential campaign? Oh, yes! And it wasn’t Trump.

Was there rampant (and blatant) racism? Oh, yes! And it wasn’t Trump.

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.”

~Hamlet by William Shakespeare.

I could go on and on and on…and that’s just politics. I’m not even getting started on Hollywood and the payoffs and the “victims” who allowed, condoned, and perpetuated the Weinstein et al rape culture. Oh, wait — Barack Obama, Al Franken, Elizabeth Warren, both Clintons, the DNC…I guess that IS politics, after all.

Sens. Chuck Schumer (D., N.Y.) has received $14,200 from Weinstein since the early 2000’s; Cory Booker (D., NJ) has taken $7,800; Kirsten Gillibrand (D., NY) was given $11,800; Patrick Leahy (D., Vt.) $5,600; Richard Blumenthal (D., Conn. ) $5,400; Al Franken (D., Minn.) $10,000; Elizabeth Warren (D., Mass.) $5,000 ; Dick Durbin (D., Ill.) $1,000; Sheldon Whitehouse (D., R.I. ) $1,000; and Martin Heinrich (D., NM), who has received $5,400 from Weinstein just this year.

Weinstein has contributed six-figure sums to the Democratic National Committee (DNC) and Democratic Senatorial Campaign Committee (DSCC). Weinstein has given more than $100,000 to the DNC while tens of thousands of dollars have gone to the DSCC.

red maga hat

Now, you may be reading this and thinking that I’m a MAGA-hat wearing rapid Trump supporter. Not really. I am a TRUTH supporter, and this guy is not getting a fair shake from these deflectors. I wish he would just shut up on Twitter, honestly. He does not have to defend himself (I know from experience that — especially if you are innocent — it only makes things worse). They are burying themselves. Just pop some corn, sit back, and watch the carnage. Shhh…they’ll all be locked away soon…

The louder the accusers, the more these people are coming out as offenders themselves. The only difference is they only have accusations against Trump, while there is mountains of ACTUAL PROOF against this basket of deplorables.

The murder of Cinna

The murder of Cinna

In his play, Julius Caesar, Shakespeare writes of Cinna, a gentle poet who loses his life to an angry mob as part of the revolt against Caesar. This story is based on historical fact, as Cinna the conspirator and Cinna the poet were indeed mistaken due to their similar names in 44 B.C. and the poet was murdered simply for his surname.

Ah, the Bard. He knew so much about what was about to come, or perhaps we are simply living up to his low expectations?

Well, it’s happened to me, so I kinda get this poor Cinna fella. I’ve been labelled a racist, a right-wing nut, a member of the KKK, and later even a Nazi. Yep. Little ol’ red-haired, married to a Jew, performs gay weddings ME is now a white-robe wearing Nazi. Know why?

My first name is similar to that of the FLOTUS.

I guess that is all it takes these days.

Let’s never mind that not a single one of these things is true about either the president OR his wife. Witch-hunts abound in this emotionally (though not factually) charged political climate. People troll Facebook so that they can post on OTHER PEOPLE’s feeds (uninvited) and bully anyone who doesn’t either agree with them or shut down in response to their temper-tantrums. This happens to me literally on a daily basis simply because I like to double-check things and look up the actual facts before I decide on something. Even just asking a question has lost me “friends.” Good riddance. I seek friends who are intelligent and grounded — they don’t have to agree with me, as I love a good challenge — they simply have to be…well…not insane.

I’m in good company, though, since every public figure in modern history since the Führer himself has been called Hitler. Literally. Anyone who disagrees with someone else is “literally Hitler.” Trump is “literally Hitler.” Alex Jones is “literally Hitler.” Everyone who voted for Trump is “literally Hitler.”

This particular exchange was so ridiculous that I can’t help but share. She began by calling everyone on a friend’s post a bunch of names…you know, so they would carefully consider her viewpoint. Then, when most ignored her for that, she let loose on the prez in her decidedly intellectual fashion.

When someone asked why she was so upset, she declared war on them. There were no names slung at this point by anyone other than her. I tried not to, God help me, but she was just so…erk! How can you say that WE are racist when YOU are the one who calls the former president monkey-eared? You say that they had class, but would you know what class was if it bit you on your own ear? Yikes.

Of course, being the intellectual she is, she quickly does a fact-check…

She then goes on to stalk me by IM. She was not smart enough to figure out how to attach whatever it was she was ranting about.

Then she pops up on my own site – even my stir-fry is eeeeeevil.

As you can see, Trump Derangement Syndrome is real. It’s perverse, intellectually lazy, and dangerous. Just like another mental ailment, folks who suffer from TDS hear voices in their head (such as CNN, Huff Post, and other propaganda machines) and BELIEVE they are real and what they have to say makes sense. Scary. Then they act out on the insanity that is floating around in their muddled brains and act as if anyone who questions them and their fantasy world — even just to compare it to reality — is crazy.

The unfortunate Cinna becomes a victim just because he has the same name as one of the conspirators. He is desperate to prove that he is not one of them, but his pleas fall on deaf ears. The crowd is driven not by reason, but by rage. Sound familiar?

How long before TDS causes these folks to start stabbing innocents due to their blinding rage? Oh, wait, that’s already happening.

Keaton Jones

Keaton Jones

Let me share a few tweets…keep in mind that these are directed toward a 10-year-old CHILD. Seriously, these are to a little boy who has obvious birth defects and whose mom posted a video of him sobbing because he has been bullied…and these are the nicer ones.


I can’t help but wonder how many people watched Forrest Gump and shouted at the screen, “GET ‘EM BOYS!! BEAT UP THAT SLOW KID!!” These assholes truly side with the bullies and think it’s OK…because…Muh Racism.

You are freaking bullies, all of you. You’re nothing but virtue-signaling, race-baiting hypocrites. He’s a disabled CHILD for everything holy. You can’t even control your grown-ass selves from bullying a CHILD? Your emotional, knee-jerk reactions make you worse than any racist, nazi, or socialist (you heard me) could aspire to. You are sick excuses for human beings who need a heaping dose of reality and decency.

For those jumping on the bullying bandwagon — not that you could recognize any semblance of logic:

  1. Neither the kid nor the kid’s mother set up the GoFundMe. It says so right on the front page.
  2. The bully MMA fighter (Joe Schilling) even admitted that he was not sure he was messaging to the actual account of the mom (it was later confirmed by both screenshots and the boy’s sister that he was NOT).
  3. And a stupid flag? You judge people by what they stand next to, not who they are or what they do — even if they are only 10 years old? Seriously?

I’m going to go tell all my black friends and family that they are racists for having/wearing/flying the southern flag (many still do).

Meanwhile, I’m going to need you to stop wearing green and drinking beer on St. Patrick’s Day because my slave ancestors do not appreciate your appropriation. Oh, wait…never mind…I don’t really care BECAUSE I’M A GROWN UP WITH A BRAIN. This is why we can’t have nice things.

Please don’t breed.

 

Saving Benjamin Bunny

We talk a lot about the inherent goodness of human beings here on CCW Radio. I would say that we go out of our way to find good news stories for our show — but the fact is that they are very easy to find. All too easy. Thank God.

Our hearts (and care packages) go out to our friends and family in California. The fires are absolutely terrifying and we pray that you are staying safely out of harm’s way. Nothing you will ever own is worth you or your family members’ lives, so please follow all evacuation advice.

There are many heroes, so many that it is hard to keep track. This is just one, small act of kindness in a giant sea of many.

If you ever feel, even for a moment, that people are bad, just watch this clip:.

Loosing Juice

Loosing Juice

As most of our listeners are aware, we are relatively new to this. Sure, we are just finding our sea legs and learning how to work the front and back ends of this thing, so we are bound to make mistakes. I am honored and excited to report that we have received our first critical email. I feel so legitimate!

“If you write to or about us – be it here, in the Freedomizer chat room, on Twitter, or on our Facebook page – we MIGHT read it on-air, and we WILL make fun of your loose arguments, poor spelling, and bad grammar. Or, we might compliment you for a well-thought-out and nicely written response, even if we disagree with your sentiments. Either route is entirely up to you.”

I jokingly called it “hate mail” on another show, and that was strictly in jest. I did not see any hate in this email. It was a genuine concern that the writer felt two of the words they read on the front page of our blog did not completely define one part of one episode of our show and thus we entirely misrepresented our mission.

I will read his email without including any of his personal information.

 

Subject: “Upbeat and Fun”

….you promise “upbeat and fun” then go off on a Weinstein rant that is full of vitriol and your website craps of “trigger warnings”… nothing about that feels upbeat or fun.  I’m not saying anything about your opinions themselves but your stated purpose and your actual actions don’t match…you’re loosing juice due to a lack of metacognition.  Maybe reflect, realign, relaunch..

Sent from my iPad

 

I’ll admit that I fired off a quick response thanking the writer for his input and asking him to listen to more than one segment. There has been no further communication. One can only hope he still tunes in. I do now wish that I had addressed this email on our next show, but I was remiss. I will make no excuses, though I have plenty. Because we promise to give everyone a voice, I feel it is important to address our listener’s concerns. I gave this email careful consideration.

The first thing I did was look up the term “metacognition” because it seemed redundant to me. The partial definition is as follows:

Metacognition is “cognition about cognition”, “thinking about thinking”, “knowing about knowing”, becoming “aware of one’s awareness”

Ooookay… so I spent a few days metagognating, and I have a Tupperware container full of belly-button lint to prove it.

Jokes aside, Mr. AB had a point. I certainly do not want us to loose any of our juice. That would definitely be a terrible, terrible thing. So, instead of limiting ourselves to “upbeat and fun” juice in a smaller vessel, we enlarged the vessel. We now have new verbiage on our front page (which is literally the only place that had the words, “positive and fun” listed before). Oh, we will still hit these things; we are just so much more than that.

As far as crapping “trigger warnings” — they were meant to be a parody, and when I threw them up against the wall, they stuck, so they stay.