Mélanie Hope

One year later, still acting stupid.

One year later, still acting stupid.

I only collected these memes, I did not create any of them. -M


This a protest to anti-(whatever) marginalizing the atrocities of murdering six million human beings. Stop using one of the most heinous and painful less-than-human world experiences as a meme for your pissy-pants disagreements. It’s overdone and insulting, not to mention insensitive.

Please read “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” and STOP insulting us and every survivor already. You won’t be heard because everyone is doing it for everything. It is becoming noise, and that is disgusting. History WILL repeat itself if it is relegated to a cartoon.

Be honest. Are each one of these examples truly the murderers of millions? Really?

If you disagree — groovy. Be logical and adult about it. I can handle it, and anyone fit to vote should be able to, also. You will NEVER change hearts or minds by being ridiculous, judgmental, sales-ey, silly, or crass. Really.

No. Really.

If anything, this last election should prove it.

I posted this on Nov. 13, 2016. Sadly, the people I was speaking to didn’t “get” it. They still don’t. Instead, they called me an apologist. A freaking Nazi apologist! Fuck that, and fuck them. They are the ones who made the Holocaust a damn meme. They are the ones spewing hate, lies, and names to the point that anything they say is met with just an eyeroll.

Back then, I did not know who/what Antifa was. I do now. I’m calling them out. You’re nothing but fascist, racist, hateful, violent thugs pretending to be relevant. You’re not.

You embrace Socialism — you know, that ideology that KILLED >TEN TIMES MORE INNOCENT PEOPLE THAN NAZIS! Oh, wait, silly me — Nazis actually are Socialists, too…but I digress…

This is your great utopia? This is what you want to do to the world?

Trump isn’t a Nazi. He’s not Socialist, either. He’s not your problem — YOU are. Who got him elected? It wasn’t Russia, racists, or the boogeyman. Look in the mirror, booby. Stop with the “REEEEEE!” already. How about you all do something CONSTRUCTIVE for a freaking change — like ENDING ACTUAL SLAVERY that is going on now. Quit whining about your first-world problems and bullying anyone who disagrees with you and be useful adults instead of petulant children.

It’s not a race thing. It’s a brain thing.

A Harvey Weinstein rant

A Harvey Weinstein rant

There is a status now going around Facebook that reads,

“If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too.’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”


I don’t give a shit about “demonstrating the magnitude.” I want change. Change does not happen when people hide, lie, and cover up for others committing crimes. Change does not occur when all you do is whine about what happened to you. Change ONLY occurs when you grow a freaking spine and take responsibility for your actions — or in this case, inactions. Change will only occur when you STOP ALLOWING them to get away with it.

The “me-too”ism attitude is what is keeping this a problem. Oh, you want attention NOW? Too late, booby. What in the hell do you want NOW? Oh, you want to be part of the field of victims. Good job.  Welcome to victimhood, you poor little baby. Where were you when the person who harmed you went out and created more victims because you basically told them it was OK? Your “I won’t step up or speak out because I’m afraid or I need to feel 100% protected or I might lose some income” or whatever else LAME, LAZY excuse you come up with, makes you as much a part of the problem as the perpetrators. Because of you MORE women were raped. Because of you MORE rapists walked free. Because of you, more rapists were created because it was demonstrably OK. You didn’t just allow it, you ENDORSED it. Your silence PROLIFERATED it!

And for those opportunistic, hypocritical cunts who continue to virtue-signal after accepting hush money from the very offenders they now pretend to hate — may you enjoy a special corner in hell where you are forever diddled by the likes of Hugh Hefner and Osama Bin Laden while “It’s a Small World,” plays repeatedly in your flame-covered cell. I hope you choke on your payouts.

From the Boy Scouts to the Catholic Church, to most of Hollywood, have you noticed that the mainstream media only cares when someone rich and famous is taken down by someone beautiful and every bit as famous? Or, only if it’s a BOY? Not all of us were lucky enough to be raped by someone rich and powerful or someone who represented a huge, sue-able organization. Not all of us are given trophies and millions of dollars for finally speaking out on camera years later. Not all of us could go on to make millions more and become the darlings of the public eye. Instead, we had to trudge through our lives making ends meet while being treated like a rag doll by our fathers, our brothers, our boyfriends, our spouses, or our bosses. Most of us just had to buck up, be treated like shit by anyone who disagreed, and go on with no concern, no counselling, and no justice.

We aren’t going to fix this by posting a status update on our Facebook feed. This will only stop when we stop allowing it. Instead of creating “safe places” for snowflakes who can’t handle harsh words, how about we create safe places for our children where they aren’t told that if no one says anything, it’s OK. How about we create a world where the President of the United States does not get a free pass to rape women in the White House, and we don’t even consider the possibility of his hypocritical wife bringing him back to the scene of the crime?

Oh, and let’s stop accusing those who did nothing. You are only making it worse, like the boy who cried wolf. You are ensuring that no one will listen when it does actually happen. People (and I use this term very loosely) like Zarna Joshi who cry rape when a man tells a dad joke need to be jailed for the human excrement they are. Words are not deeds.

You, of all people, want to speak out against Trump, Swinestein? You think that anyone is going to validate you or anything you have to say? You and your Hollywood cronies are only making more people proud for having voted for him and/or planning on voting for him again.

I am not a %

I am not a %

Below is one of my favorite cartoons. Yes, I realize that the artist is trying to make fun of those who believe in bettering themselves.

Huh? Rather than demonize those we envy, why not try to become enviable?

Honestly, I am tired of being told that anyone who succeeds is “bad” and the great masses (the 99%) are somehow better for being lessor. Dragging others down to your level only makes us all worse off.

I am not a victim. I am not a %. I will not hide behind every stupid, crippling excuse to remain in a place I don’t want to be.

It’s ridiculous and pathetic that it’s now in vogue to be in need.

On the Crazy Train

On the Crazy Train

I am not a Nazi.

Just making sure that’s out there – because pointing out the obvious seems to be mandatory for any public declarations these days. Do you know why I must state that? For stating the following: I am not a Communist.

See, the political climate has emboldened half-wits with positively no knowledge of history to honestly believe that you must be one or the other. This is insane.

Both are evil. Both have no place in the U.S. or any civilized society. Both lead to control and murder. And, yet… anyone who publicly states they are NOT pro-Antifa or did NOT vote for Hillary are immediately labelled as Nazis. Even if they are gay Jews or black themselves, they are somehow white supremacists. Welcome aboard the Crazy Train.

So, what we end up with are a bunch of brain-washed, violent racists who are fighting violence and racism by being violent and racist. Told you it was off the rails.

If you are against fascism, racism, government control, mass murder, and the quashing of personal freedoms – well, then, by definition you are against both of those ideologies. It is simple, frankly. Look it up if you are not familiar with the history.

Anyway, I gotta get back to my goose-stepping or flag waving or boot shining or whatever in the hell Nazis do. I have no clue…

By the way, I am amazed at how timely this old song’s lyrics are…

Lyrics to Crazy Train

Crazy, but that’s how it goes
Millions of people living as foes
Maybe it’s not too late
To learn how to love
And forget how to hate
Mental wounds not healing
Life’s a bitter shame
I’m going off the rails on a crazy train
I’m going off the rails on a crazy train

Let’s go!
I’ve listened to preachers
I’ve listened to fools
I’ve watched all the dropouts
Who make their own rules
One person conditioned to rule and control
The media sells it and you live the role
Mental wounds still screaming
Driving me insane
I’m going off the rails on a crazy train
I’m going off the rails on a crazy train

I know that things are going wrong for me
You gotta listen to my words


Freedom isn’t free…or in style…

Freedom isn’t free…or in style…

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.”
~The First Amendment

The US message, “Freedom isn’t free,” typically pertains to the sacrifices we, as a society, made and continue to make in order to be the freest, safest, most successful civilization ever to exist on this blue marble. While we abhor wars, we celebrate our warriors who protected us and those who now volunteer to do so.

Still, we did all this so that we could have real, honest-to-goodness freedom. This means that sometimes people are going to say things you disagree with. Good! Sometimes, people are going to flat-out disagree with your ideas and ideals. Good! Sometimes someone may even hurt your itty bitty feewings.

Get over it.

Censorship by brute force helps no one. It does not belong in our country. Lashing out physically against someone who SAID something because you THINK it might imply the IDEA of violence is lunacy.

Words are not violence. Free thought is not violence. Disagreeing with people is not violence.

Smacking them upside the head with your flag, yanking their microphone out of their hands, tripping and beating them, throwing fire bombs and smashing windows, kicking and hitting them – those are violence.

By declaring free speech “hate” or “violence,” you are allowing the thought police to declare war on a fundamental U.S. law. One that our ancestors fought for. One that we should not have to fight against YOU to keep.

Don’t believe for a minute that the tide won’t turn against you.

This divide of ideas has locked us into a constant state of “us” and “them” mentality that is destroying our nation. The only key is to calm the hell down and use your brain.

And now for some…good news?

Let’s see here…I’m looking for some good news to report tonight. I’ll try Google.

This looks promising…

Looks good - good news!

Good news on ABC – NOT!





I guess I’ll click on it and see what great things are going on in the world.

This is good news?

Why are they all smiling? I’m very confused. Well..um…maybe if I scroll?

Maybe they are as confused by the term “good” as they are by the term “news.”


Lee Kaplanian

Lee Kaplanian

In every difficult situation are gifts to uncover.”

-Lee Kaplanian



It’s not often that you happen upon a person that you immediately know, deep inside, will be a cherished friend forever. This was how I felt more than seven years ago when I met today’s guest at a small seminar in Kent, Washington. She invited me to coffee and the rest is history. Lee Kaplanian is an odd and wonderful duck. She moved to Australia to get married. She’s been a life-long volunteer. She has worked as a Speaker’s Bureau Coordinator and a trainer of instructors for Conn Chapter of Arthritis Foundation. Lee and I bonded on many levels, even as we were from vastly different generations and backgrounds. One thing we share is that we took care of our mothers through progressive illness until the end. Even in her darkest hours, Lee maintained her sense of humor and love for life.

Lee’s signature on her emails reads, “I am a healthy, powerful, inspiring woman courageously living my vision now.” This is the best way to define my friend and mentor, Lee Kaplanian.

I met Lee while I was writing Nose-to-Nose Networking, and she had a great influence on its tone and direction. She was one of the first recipients of the printed copy.

Lee is the host of “Finding the Gifts” on Tuesday mornings 9:30 am Pacific time on 1150 KKNW AM radio (Seattle) and she has a blog “The Gift of RA” where she chronicles her struggles and joys.

During our show, Jim read this quote from the recently departed Landau. It certainly fits in the theme of today’s show.

Everything that has happened to me is of value to me. As painful as certain things are, and have been, and were, there’s a use for those things in my life and in my work.”

-Martin Landau







Lead-in music by Purple Planet

Bully for you, but not for me

Bully for you, but not for me

There is a despicable trend on the interwebs, one that you won’t see when talking to people in person. By talking, I mean actually TALKING, not the degenerative monologues we are seeing on main-stream media and on Facebook. This trend is the belief that s/he/it who shouts insults the loudest wins. Anyone who dares disagree with you magically becomes a Nazi, a racist, a homophobe, a fill-in-the-victim-of-the-week-aphobe-ist.

Name calling. Mature.

The thing that is really disgusting is that these people SAY they are against bullying, even as they use public shaming, baseless accusations, censorship, literal hate speech, and – yes – even violence to shut down anyone who even slightly disagrees. They get really frothy at the mouth if someone employs logic or science. They honestly believe that if a sensible person gives up and walks away from their intolerable screeching, they have “won” some sort of fight. They consider it a win even if they started a conflict where none existed before.

While it is comical to watch, it is dangerous to society. They are degrading decency and promoting violence all in the name of “tolerance.”

Quick reality check, folks, TOLERANCE means “the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with.”

We, the open-minded, studious, RATIONAL population of the planet challenge the rest of you to live up to your own expectations.

The alt-text for the alt-?

Father’s day 2017

Our first show is dedicated to dear old dad…well…sorta…

Father’s Day? Why are we starting our show on a Father’s Day?

  1. Our normal show will always be on Sunday at 7:30, so it just kinda happened that way
  2. Most dads are done with their day, so it’s a good time to listen
  3. Both hosts have lost their fathers, so they’ll have a lot to talk about


Mélanie here,

I first met my biological father in June of 2015. By August of 2016, he was dead. Not much time to ask all of those questions. Not nearly enough time to get to know him/ love him/ like him, even. He did not have any sage wisdom or sound advice. He did not have any “I’m sorry”s or movie-like revelations. He left nothing behind. I’m still processing both the encounter and the loss.

I did get a new sister out of the deal, though.