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Sin City and Yak Blepping – Dog Abby

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Sin City and Yak Blepping – Dog Abby

Dog Abby,

A week ago, my wife went on a trip to Las Vegas with a few of her friends. Things were a little tight for us financially, but I wanted her to have a good time. So in addition to working out the costs for food and lodging, we worked out what I thought was a reasonable gambling budget for the five days she would be spending there. But when she got there, under the influence of her friends (and, I presume, alcohol), she not only blew through her gambling allowance in a just a few hours, but she maxed out one of our credit cards in cash advances to continue feeding the machines! This credit card was intended for emergencies only! I only found out about this when I got an alert from our bank. It took hours for her to answer her phone, and when I finally reached her and confronted her about her spending, she got defensive and said I was ruining her vacation. I shot back that she was ruining our finances. She hung up on me before we could finish the conversation. She gave me a feeble apology when she got home, but I was not in a forgiving mood, and I loudly told her so. We have hardly said a word to each other since.

Abby, I am angry as can be, but more importantly, hurt that she would disrespect me and break my trust so quickly and completely. It’s going to take at least two or three months to “right the ship” with our bills. The woman I married is just not this inconsiderate and irresponsible. Did I do something wrong? Or am I justified in having these feelings?

Seething in Seattle

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Dear Seething,

We love living here in Las Vegas. There is a lot to do and people come to visit from all over. Dad has told me stories about how Las Vegas has changed over the years, but he says that there is one thing that never changed, and that is the nick-name, “Sin City.” Dogs do not understand sin, but dad says this means that people can drink, eat, and gamble 24 hours a day here and they are not allowed to at home. For most people, this is not a big deal. For others, though, it can be a huge problem. Mom says that there are some people who have what she calls addictive personalities. She says it means that some people get so excited at the possibility of “winning big” that they spend more money than they should. Winning, for some people, is very similar to drugs or drinking, or eating too much, so you can see how some people should not be surrounded by all three.

This reminds me of my cat, Max. He is really smart and my best friend. He goes on walks with me, plays with me, and he talks. A lot. Mom and dad say that he is a very good kitty. I think so too. But, there is something I have seen Max do over and over that is not a good kitty. He will eat too much, too fast. When mom or dad gives him a scoop of wet cat food, he will plow into it and then do what mom calls the, “Yak/Blep” all over the carpet. Even though he does not like doing the Yak/Blep, he still wants to eat some more right afterwards! Mom and dad always tell him no. Since Max is not very good at controlling himself, mom and dad have learned to only give Max a teeny, tiny bit at a time — enough to make him happy, but not enough to make him sick. They do not mention this to Max so that he does not get embarrassed. This may be what your wife needs.

In your letter, you did not mention if your wife had ever been Sin City before. Maybe it overwhelmed her, like if someone put out an entire can of wet food for Max. She may have liked it so much that she could not stop. It could be that she is one of the personalities mom was talking about, or it could be that she just lost control this one time. I believe that she is feeling ashamed for what she did, but when people (or cats) are confronted, they will sometimes lash out. You wrote that you called her while she was in the middle of her vacation. Can you imagine what would happen if you tried to take a meal away from a tiger while he was eating it? Max thinks he is a tiger, and he acts just like you would expect a tiger to when it comes to food. I think your wife did the same thing. She did a Yak/Blep of her budget, and then came back for the credit card. It would have been easier to quietly cancel the card and then talk to her when she returned, not when she was in the middle of it and could not stop. She dug her claws in like any tiger would do.

In your letter, you sounded surprised by your wife’s actions, and this is a good thing. This means that what happened was out of character and most likely will not happen again. Be honest with her and voice your concerns without being mean or accusative. Then, LISTEN CAREFULLY to what she has to say, and do not interrupt her. Max has a tendency to interrupt people, but mom says that is a cat thing, so people can do better. Your wife will need to get everything out, so let her. Then, and only then, will you be able to work things out. If this is a problem that she knows she has, then she should not do it anymore, or, she should only be allowed a teeny, tiny bit at a time so that she does not Yak/Blep again.

With love,

Abby

Abby at the Downtown Las Vegas sign

Donate Life with George Gilbert and Jereme Pierce

Donate Life with George Gilbert and Jereme Pierce

 

By the end of your show, 9 people will have been added to the the wait list. One will have died.”
~George Gilbert

Tonight, we have two guests to discuss a specific topic. April is “Donate Life” month, and this donation is the most selfless thing you can imagine — the donation of your own tissues and organs to save another person’s life. If you are unfamiliar with the organization, Donate Life America, please visit donatelife.net to learn more. They have a robust Q&A, and there you can register to be a donor.

Our first guest and his wife have been dear friends for well over a decade. Jereme has been living with Cystic Fibrosis and he had a double lung transplant in 2013. I asked Jereme if he would be willing to share his story, as he has the first-hand experience that we so rarely hear. If it weren’t for his strength, his patience, and his enduring sense of humor, who knows how brief his life would have been. Both Jim and I are proud and honored to have been his and his wife, Cat’s friend through all of their trials and tribulations.

Our second guest, George Gilbert, has been a guest on our show a couple of times already, but tonight he wants to focus on something different. George wrote his book, Take two Laughs and Call Me In The Morning, about using humor to cope with illness. Because the illness he wrote about in this case was kidney failure and waiting for a kidney-pancreas transplant, George also goes around the country talking about organ and tissue donation and how it saved his wife’s life.

 

 

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Have a Heart…or a Lung…

Catching up

Jim

We had lunch with the Big Kahuna himself, Proof Negative on Thursday. Had some of the best fish and chips in the area at the Lakes Lounge. Always a pleasure to catch up and plan for the future of our radio network and Barefoot is Legal.

Mélanie

Melanie won the Division H Toastmasters Table Topics Contest. Barefoot. At a shoe company.  This stuff writes itself. Table Topics are an opportunity to practice impromptu speaking, which is a great skill to develop. Go to Toastmasters.org to find a cub near you.

Good news

Dog That Shoplifted a Book on ‘Abandonment’ is Given the Love It Was Asking For

 

High School Student’s Ingenious Solution Could Save Bees From Drinking Poisonous Water

These Ordinary Hats Are Actually Bicycle Helmets That Could Save Thousands of Lives

Toddler Wakes Up Right When Parents Agree to Remove Life Support, Doctors Call it Easter Miracle

Rants and Rabbit holes

What would a TV show featuring a Constitutional Super Hero be like if if was a Quinn Martin production a la THE FBI or THE STREETS OF SAN FRANCISCO? Tune into THE O’REITZ FILES to find out.

Donate life

Dog Abby

Intro Read Abby’s answer here.

 

 

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Party time and kennels – Dog Abby

Party time and kennels – Dog Abby

Dog Abby,

My husband and I recently went on a much-needed vacation. We left our only son, a fifteen-year-old, in charge of the house. We thought it would give him an opportunity to exercise some responsibility and show his trustworthiness. We should have known better.

Only two days in, we got a phone call from our neighbor. He said that my son was throwing a house party, and he threatened to call the police because his friends were being loud and unruly. We apologized and said we would handle it. We ourselves called the police. They broke up the party.

Abby, our boy doesn’t know that we know about this. We want to give him a chance to come clean. Is this the right thing to do, or should we simply confront him when we get home in a few days?

Angry in Amsterdam

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Dear Rightfully Angry Mom,

My mom says that dogs have an overdeveloped sense of guilt, and we will feel bad about something even if we did not do it. This is true. All she has to do is use “disappointed mommy voice” and I am feeling sad and guilty right away — even if I do not know why! Mom also says that some people are just the opposite, and they never feel guilty no matter how wrong they are. She says that sometimes people have to be taught why something they did was wrong by showing them who they hurt and how. Then, once they understand why what they did was wrong, they have to go to those people they hurt and make it right any way that they can.

This is the first step. Be honest with your son and let him know how disappointed you are in him and why. Use that disappointed mommy voice, and do not yell, or he will just yell back. Let your son know that he hurt you and his dad (by being distrustful), that he hurt the neighbors (by being loud enough to have the cops called), and he hurt himself (by destroying his own reputation). He may have even hurt his friends, as I bet several of them got into trouble with their parents, too.

What do you do going forward?

As I have gotten older, I have been getting more and more scared of loud noises. Our neighbors are very mean and like to set off fireworks all year round. Sometimes, when I am home alone, it scares me so much that I run to mom and dad’s bedroom and tear up their bed. Mom and dad have called the cops on the neighbors and spoken to them several times. The neighbors are just too mean and will not stop. So, after the third time that mom came home to shredded sheets and a beat-up blanket, she decided that I will no longer be allowed in the bedroom when I am left home alone. Now, mom and dad lock that door before they go anywhere without me.

Your son may have the opposite reaction to what I am facing — he may be LESS likely to tear up the house as he grows older and he becomes more responsible and aware of how his actions affect others. Until then, do not let him have access to the areas that he has proven he cannot be trusted with alone. I do not know if they have people kennels, but I would look into it for your next trip.

With love,
Abby

March for Ending our Rights

March for Ending our Rights

One of my friends on Facebook posted that she was getting rid of her microwave. I’ve heard the crazy stories about atomic structures of food, degrading vitamins, yadda yadda — but this was not part of her logic. She’s doing it for health reasons, she said. “I hardly ever if never cook “healthy” food in the microwave. It’s all about pizza rolls, chicken nuggets and hot dogs.”

Just in case she reads this (I doubt it, but just in case,) I’m not judging — God knows I am not the pinnacle of health. That has nothing to do with my point. What concerns me is that she and so many who supported her on this post saw this as not only logical, but something to celebrate.

So…let me get this straight…it’s the MICROWAVE’s fault that you eat junk food?

I have always hated the passive language used by news outlets, mainly to remove the perpetrator from the equation. Headlines read, “8 pedestrians were stuck by a truck.” or “Truck plows into pedestrians.” Uh…no. The DRIVER may have been in a truck at the time, and the DRIVER hit the pedestrians. Why are we blaming the vehicle?

This really gave me some insight to the current mindset of society. People don’t eat poorly; microwaves force them to. People don’t run over pedestrians; the vehicles do. People don’t shoot people; guns do. Hammers hit things, saws saw things, and screwdrivers…well… (I guess that lets Bubba Bill off the hook, huh?)

So, let’s blame the tool — not the users — and the only solution is to punish everyone who has tools, even though 99.99999999999% of us use them correctly.

Which makes sense. Until you load a gun, set it on a table, and leave it there expecting it to grow legs and shoot people.

I get the hysteria. I do. Anyone who has ever been calm during an emergency while everyone else runs around screaming knows that it is only when we are calm and rational that we see our way through the storm. Nuking the planet because you are afraid of thunder is not the way. Calm the hell down and learn something before you go spouting illegitimate statistics and baseless accusations.

And, for God’s sake, STOP using children as your puppets.

Bella Garris

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That alone is what keeps me strong in the community, that anyone can be part of this world.”
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I first met Bella through my improv troupe. She is a strong supporter and comes to all of our shows. After one of our shows, she joined us for dinner and I had the honor of sitting next to her. Since then, I have little by little learned more about Miss Bells, who is smart, funny, and has a heart of gold. Bella is a strong supporter of the burlesque community, which I’ll be honest, I know little about. Bella says that the art form gives women and men everywhere a chance to perform regardless of age, background or body shape and she feels that the genre is empowering to be around. Tonight we will learn more about Bella herself, and the world of burlesque.

 

The fundraiser is called Las Vegas Loves Its Legends: A Burlesque Fundraiser.  The event takes place on Friday, April 27th at 8pm at Artifice and features ten local performers and scheduled performances by living burlesque legends Marinka, Queen of the Amazons; Bambi Jones; Georgette Dante; Gina Bon Bon; and Tiffany Carter.

There will be raffles and a silent auction.

Included in those are autographed pieces of burlesque memorabilia as well as costume pieces worn by actual legends.

All proceeds raised from the event will help living legends travel to the annual Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekender held the first weekend in June here in Las Vegas.  Burlesque is an art form that has been passed down through performance and tradition.

For many living legends, the weekender is their only chance to reconnect with old friends from the business and provide guidance, advice and encouragement to the new performers of today.  Performers from around the world attend the Weekender to honor those that have inspired them.  And what better way to honor the past than by preserving it – which is what the BHOF Museum works hard to do every day.

So for us, the fundraiser is doubly necessary – assist legends with travel expenses so they can attend the Weekender and raise awareness not only about the BHOF Museum but about the art of burlesque in general.

Just plug the fundraiser and the museum and encourage them to check out local burlesque..  I will get the info for Brown

 

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Barclays, Burlesque, and Bus Drivers

Barclays, Burlesque, and Bus Drivers

Catching up

Jim

First week out of the nest at Barclays US aka Barclaycard…Doesn’t suck. Jim is becoming less and less dependent on help except in out-of-the-norm situations. On the creative front, Fontana episode 2 is finally being written! And more auditions are on the way now that training has been completed.

 

Mélanie

Melanie has joined a new seminar company, and continues to be involved with Lorman as well. She has also committed to having her new book, WHAT’S WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE? finished within 2 months. You heard it here, folks!

Good news

From Abby: Bus Driver Has Been Feeding Stray Dog for the Last Two Years

From Jim: Couple Meets at Speed Dating, and Fall in Love. He’s 92, She’s 80

From Melanie: When Woman Leaves Giant Sign For Thief Who Stole Her Bike, People Start Knocking on Her Door

Rants and Rabbit holes

Our newest Spoof/Sketch is, sadly, based on a real event.

 

Dog Abby

Should you remain friends with those you left behind? Read Abby’s answer here.

 

 

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Your five closest friends – Dog Abby

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Your five closest friends – Dog Abby

Dog Abby:

I recently ran into a high school friend of mine. We had lunch together and got caught up. After high school, I had left town, gone to college, and became a long-time officer in the Army. I then got married and started a business. Abby, my friend never left town, works as a clerk at a local store, and hasn’t done much with his life. He wants us to keep in touch, but I don’t really feel like we would have much to talk about. Am I being overly judgmental here, or is this friendship okay to let go?

Cornered in Conyers

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Dear Cornered,

Mom and dad often talk about the friends they left behind in Seattle when we moved to Vegas. I left many friends, too. When we moved, mom and dad made lots more friends, and so did I! There is always more room in your life for more friends, and things like texting, phone calls, and Facebook make it easy to catch up and stay current.

Mom talked to me about one friend she had made all the way back in Junior High School. I remember her because we did lots of walkies together and often doggy sat for her. Her doggy has crossed the rainbow bridge, and she was one of my best friends, and I miss her. Mom and her friend do not really talk anymore, not because we moved or they are mad at each other, but because their lives and their attitudes are very different. This is OK. People grow and change and often will grow apart.

More to your point, dad said to quote a man named Jim Rohn who said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This applies to income, attitude, and success. Mom says that her friend is sad a lot because she makes very bad choices. She does not live in her own home and she does not have a career at all. Her friend gets mad toward and jealous of those who choose differently. Mom says that she still loves her friend, but it is not healthy for her to be close anymore. Her friend has not made any effort to stay in touch, so mom just let her go. She still thinks of her fondly and prays for her and her family, but she knows that it would not be healthy to be around her.

I am a dog, so I am lucky that my five closest friends are my mom and dad, my two kitties, and anyone who is as happy to see me as I am to see them. Because I am the sum of my five closest friends, I am happy almost all of the time.

If your friend makes you happy, that is great. If your friend makes you sad, then he is not much of a friend at all. If your friend is reaching out to you as a mentor or a role model, this is really, really cool. Maybe he knows about the five closest people thing, and he looks up to you. You can help lift him up. If he just considers you a friend because you lived in the same town or went to the same school, well, that is not enough. He will recognize it and will probably back away, too.

People are not really that much more complicated than dogs. If you look around at the people you spend the most time with, and you realize that they are not good for you, then you are not even as smart as a dog. We dogs look around, and while we do not always have a choice as to where we live and who we live with (like humans do) we know who makes us happy and fulfilled. Whether it is drive, intelligence, fun, patience, or a common goal, friends that walk the same path are very important. You can always wave at friends that are walking different paths, but you do not have to jump to their path.

Sarah Lawrence

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When it comes to parenting, the ‘Path to Better’ always includes being present with your children.”
~Sarah Lawrence

Tonight’s guest fancies herself the Mistress of Madness, not because she’s crazy (like us), but because she delves into it as part of her mission. She is currently working on a podcast called Between Mundane and Madness that explores all the little moments where anxiety rears its ugly head. I met her at a speaker’s event where she wowed the crowd in less than five minutes. She is a fellow Toastmaster, professional speaker, and blogger. As busy crazy ladies, we had an instant rapport, and I am thrilled to bring her onto CounterCultureWISE to learn more about her and what she has on the horizon.

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My Green Soul!

My Green Soul!

Catching up

Mélanie

Proof of the power of intention and the Law of Attraction…Melanie has been wanting a new Kia Soul for years, particularly an Alien Green one. For 4 years, she had had a picture of it on her dreamboards and even her “dreamcup.” On Friday, we used our tax return to make a down payment, and Melanie was finally able to drive her dream car off the lot. Set your intentions, and stay focused. Never give up!

Oh, My Soul!

Jim

Another key to success is acknowledging what you DON’T want, and then turning your back on it. Jim finished his training at Barclays, and got an additional award for scoring 100% on his exam! This was after a tumultuous 3 years at an employer that simply wasn’t a good match for him. Jim feels that he is going to be very successful here. Now that he is about to settle into his work routine, he is preparing to once again get involved in Shakespeare in the Classroom. More on that soon!

Good news

From Jim: ‘Superwoman’ Surgeon Hikes Through Snow For 3 Hours So She Can Operate on Her Cancer Patient

From Melanie: Mom Turns $700 into a $65 Million Company After Manufacturer Calls Her ‘a Stupid Woman’

Rants and Rabbit holes

We caught the film A Wrinkle in Time today. Great movie with an inspiring message. We both liked the story and the acting, especially the brother and sister. (Deric McCabe and Storm Reid have MAJOR careers ahead.) The photography was occasionally jarring, but that was a minor distraction. Overall a thought provoking and beautiful film.

Dog Abby

Is there life after 50? Read Abby’s answer here.

 

 

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